How to make Comfort?!

Now that you know what is comfort, I'm sure that you know or at least have a bit understanding of how to create it... Well it does not matter whether you do or you don't. Because I'm about to tell you anyway. So in the previous post, I told you about how important it is to have a comfort. Because without it, you will be like a television. Fun but useless.

Here are some way to make a comfort

Genuine Communication

Remember that I told you that girls can sense whether you are faking or not? If you are faking, you will be labelled as a weirdo because she knew that you are insecure. Why would you even faking if you are comfortable with yourself? Anyway the same goes with communication. If you ask or tell something that you are not genuinely interested in, she will know it immediately. 

Let's take an example of this, you like Spiderman, and you want to know whether she likes spiderman too. But you scared that she might "brands" you as a weirdo or a kid. So instead, you ask something that makes you look like an adult. Such as "What course are you studying?"....

And when you get the answer, you will be like "Ohhh.. ok" and change to another topic. "What is your favorite food?"... 
And she give you the answer again and you will be like "ok" again. 
And change it to another topic again and so on until she get pissed off and tell you to fuck off.

It might looks simple and not important, but genuine communication is really really a way to build a comfort. So that is why, ALWAYS ASK A QUESTION THAT YOU ARE GENUINELY WANT TO KNOW. It makes her feel like you really want to know her and therefore it creates a bond between the two of you.

Dig in the same hole

Ok, fuck you, do not think this is like "that" hole!!! What I meant by this is try to get to know her deeper by deep communication. And it is REALLY important. 

Here's example number one

"So what do you do for fun?"

"Fishing"

"Ok, cool. So what is your course study?"

"Arts"

"Alright, what is your favorite bread?"

"Bread Talk"

And here's example number two

"So what do you do for fun?"

"Fishing"

"Ok, tell me, is that your hobby or out of boredom"?

"Well it's kinda like my hobby"

"Great, since when do you fishing?"

"Since I was a baby"

"Cool, you must be an aquatic baby LOL"

Okay forget the aquatic baby part, I don't even know what the hell is that. But do you get the differences between the first and the second example? 

The first example is simply just shooting her with a lot of nonsense conversation, and it does not have any point at all. You know a bunch of layer deep information about her. So What??! It does not make you know anything from her. 

The second example, on the other hand ask a root deep question. And by doing this, it creates a subconscious mind inside her that said "Hmm, this guy understands me". Therefore you get a bond with her and therefore she will feel comfortable with you.

So the next time you talk to a person, don't just shoot them with tons of random questions. Instead elaborate their statements and ask from there.

In conclusion, the two on top are about the same. But you can't do a deep communication without genuine communication. If you are not interested in what you are talking about, how can you think of elaborating it... That is why always ask a genuine question and deepen it by deeper communication

What is Comfort?!

The question is, "Is attraction alone enough?" Have you ever think about this question? Some of you might think it is enough, some of you might think it is not. Well to me, the answer is NO...

First of all, let's talk about what is comfort. Have you ever felt like "Ohh this person understands me" or "I felt like I can talk anything to this person"... If you do, then that is comfort. Basically, it is a feeling of comfortable (DUHHH..) of being with somebody...

If you have a friend, and you felt like you can talk about anything to your friend, it means that you are comfortable with them. It does not matter, whether your friend is a guy or a girl. The point is, if you are able to talk or share anything with them, that is Comfort.

Without comfort, you are just like a clown, dancing around just for the sake of entertaining people. Let's take an example of this. You are going to some random mall, and you met a clown. He is able to make you laugh, get your attention, and you are just happy for that day. Get it? Now what do you think of that? Most of you, will think like "Ohh what a nice clown he is"... But, will you want to go out with him? Probably NO... Why? Because even though he is attractive, there is no point in going out with him BECAUSE he does not know anything about you. Will you share your problem with him? Heck NO, you just met him...

To sum it up, without comfort, you will be the dancing monkey because you will just be there to entertain her. You won't be able to going out with her because she does not know you. In other word, you are Fucked... Therefore, I'm here to teach you how to create a comfort between the both of you in my next post

Brain Fart

Today, I want to talk more on inner game and it's as important as any others... It's called BRAIN FARTS. Brain fart is a process where your brain giving off a stinky gases and its chemical formula is H32P9...

LOL I'm just kidding.

Brain fart is often used by anybody including me. It's something like "Ummm..."

Get it?
No?
Okay me the generous will give you more example

"Yo... what book did you read yesterday?"
"Ummm... it's called Garfield book"
"I see, is it fun?"
"Ummm. yea, its really funny"
"So how was the story?"
"It's when a human named Garfield get kicked in the ass by uhhh.. Warfield and bla bla bla"

What is your impression against the guy that "Ummm.." a lot?
Get it now?

It's when people say the word "Ummm.." a lot. To girls, it shows that you are not confident. I have tried it several times and when you Brain Farts a lot, girl will just suddenly leave you. It's like they can sense it automatically and yes, it kills attraction. Simple but deadly.

So the next time you guys are going to "Ummm.." hold it, and better speaks nothing. At first it might be hard for you and you have to do it consciously. But overtime, you will get used to it and you can see the result right away.

I know I know, easier said than done. But I don't have any way to make you lost you brain farts. Keep practicing to everyone around you.

What Things that kills off Attraction

Hey guys, its been a long time since I write a blog. I had vacation and nothing happened with my love life. So yea, I've got no material to write. And damn, I missed writing all about this blog.

Anyway,
now that you guys know that how to spark attraction... Easy wasn't it? So now let's talk about what kills attraction. Surely you do not want to kill off what you had build. To avoid this, you just have to be aware of this.

Needy
Needy is actually the dumbest mistake average Joe will EVER make. Like EVER.... Needy comes from insecurity which means that you will think of needing that person. A great example of this is one-itis. It's a condition where you think that she/he is the only person in this Fucking Earth that you only wants.
Well one-itis itself is not bad, BUT extreme one-itis IS bad. 
A good example will be like

"Hey (girl) have u eaten your lunch?"
"(The girl doesn't give a fuck and not replying)"
"Hey why don't u reply to my text :) ?"
"(Again,, not a single fuck is given that day)"

Knowing his text is not being replied, he called the girl
"Uhh hi, I sent you a text but you didn't reply it... What are u doing right now?"
"CAN'T YOU SEE I'M BUSY RIGHT NOW!? AND I DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE AT ALL"

After this he sent ANOTHER fucking text
"Uh sorry, I'm just worried about you.. I won't text you if you feel unhappy... Hope you always be happy :)"
And BOOM, congrats, he just enter a friendzone...

Anyway that's what needy behavior looks like... It kills a fucking attraction and irritates you like FUCK... So the next time you feel needy, go and do something else,,, play games, read comics, whatever as long as its not needy

Prize
Q : I want to give her a present!! Why Can't I do that?
A : Yes you can.. go ahead and give her
Q : But you said prize kills attraction?
A : Yes it kills, ONLY if you do it early and too often
Q : @_@

Okay, if you guys don't understand that, thats okay... Because me the nice will explain it again... Basically it's when you are seeing someone and you give a present TOO much and very often.
Why is it not good? Because to her it feels like you are buying their love with present. I personally used to do that when I was still a Fucking Chump... what I did to her was buy a present 1 month after we going out. Then buy another when she was about to go overseas. Then another after she return from oversea. Then another when she had a birthday. Then another when she pass her exam,,,, And so on..
You see, besides it is bad for your wallet, it is bad for your attraction too. She become less responsive from each present you gave and made her uncomfortable especially when you have not going out yet.

Non-leading
This apply to the boys only. If you are a girl and seeing somebody, just skip this part as girl was not made to LEAD... Boys, if you have not been leading, then you are in the deepest shit EVER... because you are not attractive to girl at all.
Girl ask "Where should we eat our lunch?"
Boy said " Up to you"
Girl ask " So what should we order?"
Boy said "Up to you"
Girl said "So where should we go after this?"
Boy said "Up to you"

Bear in mind UNLESS you are in a fucking television drama where the girl is madly fucking in love with you that it made you looks ultra cool and mysterious,,, it WILL NOT WORK IN THE REAL LIFE... In real life, the girl will slap you in the face and throw you to the fish pond... Well not like that but they will get ultra turn off. Not only you can't lead, you are a boring guy too. What challange and adventure she will get from you?? NONE

The next time girl ask you questions like that,, just answer it confidently. Girls prefer SO MUCH to eat in a restaurant that sell dog shit but it is the boy that chose it, rather than in restaurant that sell princess food but she has to choose it herself. Remember,, Boys are meant to LEAD..