How to Break Awkward Silences?

Last post, we talked about 2 different silences, the comfortable silence and the awkward silence. Obviously if you have the comfortable silence, then it's good. But, if you have the awkward silence, it's like having a time bomb sitting next to you. That if you don't diffuse it fast enough, it will go BOOM!! Today's post will explain how to diffuse that time bomb A.K.A the awkward silence

Don't Try Too Hard

What does this mean is that, if you are stuck with the topic or you can't think of any other topic, then don't try too hard to create another topic. Scientifically, if you think too hard, your brain will not be able to think properly. Have you ever relaxed in your room or when you take a shower? If you had, I'm sure that you notice that you will start to get a lot of ideas.. You will start to get ideas that normally you won't think about. So the next time you are having conversation, remember to relax and don't try too hard.. Your brain soon will get a new topic conversation for you to start.

Ask Open Ended Question

Open Ended questions are the way to start a conversation going on. It is good because she can't just simply answer it with a "yes" or "no". One good example of open ended question is "Tell me something special about yourself". It's simple and light. It does not need a bachelor degree to answer and generally people like to talk about them self. So, it's like killing two birds with a stone. You don't get the awkward silence and she will think of you as a good conversationalist.

Make Her Participate
If you ever see a public speaker speaking, they always do something that make the audiences to respond. Such as "Who would like to volunteer to come over here?". It makes the audiences feel that they are participating in the event and it kills the boredom of just listening into the speaker. Now obviously you can't say "Who would like to volunteer?" to her.
If you do, then .... no comments. Instead you can do like this

You : So you see, on my way here, I saw this bitch fighting over a dude.
Now instead you keep on blabbering how they fight, you can ask her to participate by
You : What do you think of those bitch?

She will be more than happy to answer your questions. And it add value to the conversation

Utilize Her Answer
When a woman talk about something, they always give informations within her sentence. And you can use this information to create another conversation that you can use. 

Example

Her : You know, I really like to eat a beef steak in Tony Roma's
There are a few points that you can use to your advantage over here. "Eat", "Beef", "Steak", "Tony Roma's".

You : Okay, high five. We should go to eat a beef steak sometimes this week. 
Her : Oh okay, but I'm not free this weekend though
You : Let me guess, you are going to study this weekend
Her : No, I'll dye my hair this weekend
You : But your hair right now is really nice (flirt)
Her : No, I would like my hair color to be red
You : Why do you like red? or You like red don't you?
Her : Red is bla bla bla

You see, from beef steak, it actually can lead to another conversation's topic. This is because women always hid a piece of information within her sentences. Therefore, it is your job to pull this informations away from the sentences and use it to your advantage. She will be really happy if you are able to notice the small things that you notice about her.