How to make Comfort?!

Now that you know what is comfort, I'm sure that you know or at least have a bit understanding of how to create it... Well it does not matter whether you do or you don't. Because I'm about to tell you anyway. So in the previous post, I told you about how important it is to have a comfort. Because without it, you will be like a television. Fun but useless.

Here are some way to make a comfort

Genuine Communication

Remember that I told you that girls can sense whether you are faking or not? If you are faking, you will be labelled as a weirdo because she knew that you are insecure. Why would you even faking if you are comfortable with yourself? Anyway the same goes with communication. If you ask or tell something that you are not genuinely interested in, she will know it immediately. 

Let's take an example of this, you like Spiderman, and you want to know whether she likes spiderman too. But you scared that she might "brands" you as a weirdo or a kid. So instead, you ask something that makes you look like an adult. Such as "What course are you studying?"....

And when you get the answer, you will be like "Ohhh.. ok" and change to another topic. "What is your favorite food?"... 
And she give you the answer again and you will be like "ok" again. 
And change it to another topic again and so on until she get pissed off and tell you to fuck off.

It might looks simple and not important, but genuine communication is really really a way to build a comfort. So that is why, ALWAYS ASK A QUESTION THAT YOU ARE GENUINELY WANT TO KNOW. It makes her feel like you really want to know her and therefore it creates a bond between the two of you.

Dig in the same hole

Ok, fuck you, do not think this is like "that" hole!!! What I meant by this is try to get to know her deeper by deep communication. And it is REALLY important. 

Here's example number one

"So what do you do for fun?"

"Fishing"

"Ok, cool. So what is your course study?"

"Arts"

"Alright, what is your favorite bread?"

"Bread Talk"

And here's example number two

"So what do you do for fun?"

"Fishing"

"Ok, tell me, is that your hobby or out of boredom"?

"Well it's kinda like my hobby"

"Great, since when do you fishing?"

"Since I was a baby"

"Cool, you must be an aquatic baby LOL"

Okay forget the aquatic baby part, I don't even know what the hell is that. But do you get the differences between the first and the second example? 

The first example is simply just shooting her with a lot of nonsense conversation, and it does not have any point at all. You know a bunch of layer deep information about her. So What??! It does not make you know anything from her. 

The second example, on the other hand ask a root deep question. And by doing this, it creates a subconscious mind inside her that said "Hmm, this guy understands me". Therefore you get a bond with her and therefore she will feel comfortable with you.

So the next time you talk to a person, don't just shoot them with tons of random questions. Instead elaborate their statements and ask from there.

In conclusion, the two on top are about the same. But you can't do a deep communication without genuine communication. If you are not interested in what you are talking about, how can you think of elaborating it... That is why always ask a genuine question and deepen it by deeper communication