Here, I will be talking on what triggers attraction. As I said earlier, attraction is very important.No attraction = friendzone. However, this will not work if you do not have the basic personality that I told in my previous post. So, make sure you have read my post "http://orangepua.blogspot.sg/2012/08/how-to-make-attraction-inner-game.html"
Attraction can be triggered by a lot of things. Be funny, goofy, and so forth will surely triggers attraction. However, not all people here can be funny. So here, be prepared for a technique that has been proven worked by me.
Stories
Like story telling, this means that you tell your partner stories. However, it is different that just your personal story or just her personal story. The story has to include between you and your partner. For example
"Do you like dog?"
"Yea, I love dog."
"Cool, so let's say we move to a new house together. What dog are we going to buy?"
See the difference? It creates a story that involving both of you. Rather than asking "What dog do you like?" which only tell about her story, you can create a story that makes her feel as if you are doing it together with her. Looks lame, but it works...
Challenge
This is my favorite's. Basically, cute girls are not used to being challenged most of the time.
Let say this conversation
"Hey (girl) do you like Spiderman?"
"NO, its lame... Barbie is better."
Now the average Joe here will be like "Yea you are right, spidey sucks, barbie rocks."... This kind of behavior is not attractive at all because, you are not a challenge for her. She can instantly change your mindset without any hard work. That is why "nice guy" will always stuck in a friendzone because of this very reason. The next time girl say something that you are not agree with, just challange her right away. Never ever be scared that she might angry or upset. Remember to value yourself, and do not ever put your partner on the pedestal.
Push/Pull
This is a classic method, yet very effective. I rarely used it personally. It is something you said that make her think you like her then push it away from her. Confusing in description, I will show the example.
"Hey, you look really smart, maybe you can teach me mathematics"
"Really? Sure I can teach you..."
"On a second thought, I want to be taught by a cute girl, so you fail to be my teacher"
Bear in mind, if you say this things in a very serious and straight face, then you are a jerk. This technique must be used in a playful manner. The reason I do not use this is because my personality is not really playful.
Too much pull will make you not attractive because it makes you looks needy. The same as with too much push. Too much push will make you look like jerk that does nothing but insulting. So remember, do it together and you will get girl licking your boots
Be Mysterious
Have you ever meet a person that display really little about themself? And that actually make you want to know more about them? The same applies to girl/boy. Mysterious and unpredictable is attractive because of the very same reasons. Unpredictable does not make you looks boring because they will never be able to guess what are you going to do or think.
This is very simple. Simply do not give all detail about yourself.
"Hey where are we going to eat?"
The easy way to be stupid and does not look mysterious is by telling her where are you going to eat.
So how to be mysterious and not predictable?
By not telling her where are you going. Simple as that, but do not do this to an extreme that she do not know anything about you. The point is, make her work to get what she want.
As stated, I'm not gonna be a dick and let you live in mystery of "HOW THE FUCK CAN I GET ATTRACTION?"
Out of all the love's elements, attraction is the easiest to make...
First of all, I want to let you all know that you DO NOT have to be funny... If you are a funny person to begin with, then that's good. It's a plus point for you. BUT, for those assholes that ARE NOT funny to begin with, DO NOT fake it... Girls can tell that you are being somebody else and give you a free ticket to "weirdo zone".
"SO WHAT SHOULD I DO THEN??"
Let's begin with the most basic. This is something that you should have inside yourself before going for the technique to make attraction. Without the foundation, technique will be meaningless.
Be Confidence
Easier said than done? Confidence will come to you if you are comfortable with yourself. "How do I get comfortable with myself?" Basically, you have to be yourself. I have explained this in the previous post. To get more information on "Be Yourself", visit my post http://orangepua.blogspot.sg/2012/08/be-your-self-to-extreme.html... However, for those lazy ass out there, I'll still be kind and give you a brief description. Basically, be proud of who you are and do not ever apologize for what you are. Do NOT think that you are weird. If you are a gamer, admit that you are a gamer and be proud of it. This will give you the boost of confidence and confidence itself is attractive. For girls, confidence is one of the top things that they look from men.
Vocal Projection
Pitch
"It is not WHAT you say, but HOW you say"... This quote explain everything. I can't give you example due to I'm not able to record my voice, but imagine that there are two condition happening to you. Lets say you are walking in the mall, and suddenly a super hot girl come to you and ask a question.
"Where is the starbucks?"
"Oh, its over there, and at the corner you turn left", with a high pitch voice.
The reason you are using high pitch voice is actually because you are trying to make her like you. But its actually counter-productive because, it set you in the lower value than her.
Now imagine stupid looking people with a non attractive face come to you and ask the same question. Probably your answer will be like
"Oh, its over there, and at the corner you turn left", but with a lower pitch voice.
The difference here is only the tonality of what you say.
You are using low pitch voice because you don't think anything of them. You don't hope them to like you and that is why you are using lower pitch voice.
Now some people might have naturally higher or naturally lower pitch voice. It does not really matter actually. What matter is when you raise your pitch, means you are lowering your value and it is NOT attractive to people. They will think you like a beggar
Pace
DO NOT talk in a very fast pace. The reason is because first it comes out as a low value, second people might not understand what you say. Let's break it one by one. Have you ever felt you are at the bottom of totem pole? And when you want to say something, you are scarred that your opinion might be cut from somebody that is on the higher totem pole? If yes, then that is normal. That's how the society works. Because of this, the lower value people will say everything they have in mind in one piece of sentence. Whereas, the higher value people will talk in slower pace because they know that they can take over the conversation however they want.
Second reason is people might not understand of what you say. And you will come across as nervous. When you are nervous, your brain will not be able to think properly. That is why people tend to have a lot to think when they are in bed because it is when their brain feel relaxed. So the next time you feel that people don't understand what you say, try to slow down. It helps you to think properly and comes out as a high value person. Remember, human like human that has higher social status.
Volume
I can't stress this enough, for heaven's sake, SPEAK LOUDER. The more people that surround yourself, the more you have to speak louder. First, because you want everybody to be able to hear what you say. If you are talking to a girl and there are A LOT of people around you, you want to speak louder. It allows other people to hear what you say to the girl and the girl will feel safe, because she knew that you are not doing anything bad to her. If you speak very soft, then she might think that you are not confident or you are planning something bad to her, like rapping.
Second reason, obviously you want her to hear what you said. If she can hear you properly, she will thinks you are confident. You speak of what you feel, without caring of what other people might think of you. And that is the most attractive traits a man can have.
Passion
Let's say you are in a class, and your teacher speak in monotone voice. What do you think of that? BORING AND SLEEPY!!
The same will happens to people that you talk to. When you speak, speak with passion. And that is why its important to speak something that you like. If you like video game, then there is nothing wrong to talk about it to girls. However, do not keep blabbering about how good you are in video game. Give her chance to talk about something too. The more things that you let her talk, the better conversationalist she will think of you.
Have you ever had a crush and when you confess to them, they will say "Thanks you are a nice guy, but I don't want to ruin our relationship... So let's just stay as what we are.." or "I think of you like brother"??
If you had, then you just get rejected, indirectly... The true meaning behind those words is "You are a nice guy but I just don't feel any attraction towards you"
So what happened here is you lack of attraction to attract your "future partner". You and your partner might always share problem, thoughts and so on with each other. But after all that, you thought she loves you back, you confess to her... "I...Love you, do you want to be my girlfriend?"... Then she replied like the quote at the beginning of paragraph...
To answer the question of the tittle, attraction is important because it is like a magnet. It makes the person feel want to be with you, not just mentally but also physically... Without attraction, you guys will just be friends forever. Well, best friends at Max, not gonna be more than that. The next time you want to get somebody to love you, remember that you have to attract them to like you first... To put it simply, without attraction, you will be putting yourself into the "Friendzone" because she will think "Ohh he is such a nice guy, he always be there when I need him... So if he become my boyfriend and we end up break up, it's going to be awkward. So... let's just put him in the friendzone, just in case I need someone to talk to, he will be there".... That's life bro....
Think about it like this, will you be interested to go out with a dull boring guy? Let's say you wanna hang out to a mall, with your friend. He is super boring and can't do a shit. He talks really soft, insecure, and apologize every single minute... Will you even be interested to get to know anything about his life?
HECK NO!! He is so boring he can just fuck himself...
Will you want to go out with them again? HECK NO!! I'd rather FAP than going out with people like that. So get the point now? Without Attraction, they won't spend time with you, or even interested to get to know you. That's why attraction is really an important elements in dating.
In terms of Picking Up, without attraction then she will not interested to get to know you.
For example,
"What's your hobby?"
"Sleep"
"Tell me something special about yourself"
"Nothing special"
See, that's what you will get if you try to have a conversation without attraction. In other words, attraction is like something that you must have before going to rapport or comfort.
Some people have idols. Their idols could be a comedian, singer,musician, and whatever you can think of... It's a good thing to have actually, so that you guys can learn from them. Be it how they are successful, funny, etc... However, some people took it to the extreme, they start to copy them from the way they walk, the way they dress, talk and so forth. And when you thought you look as cool as them, turns out that everybody said you are a weirdo (SUCKS TO BE YOU)
The terms of "Be Yourself" is kinda used it loosely nowadays. People who doesn't know anything will usually give the "Just be yourself man". And to be honest, this is the most USELESS advice ever.
When I said Be Yourself, I don't mean it like "Oh well, this is who I am, a gamer... so let's just stay at home and plays StarCraft all day" while drink a milk... Girls are not going to ring your doorbell and immediately say "Would like to be my boyfriend?"... Those kind of things only work in a freaking Korean drama. The Real World does not work like that...
Be Yourself to the Extreme means :
Don't be somebody else
Don't Fake yourself for whoever you are... If you are a gamer, then admit it in to all people... Some people are scared to be thought weird by other people... They think society don't give them permission for them to be like them self. You are a gamer but when people ask what did you do for fun, you replied with "I'm always study", because you don't want people to mock or hate you...
Which one do you prefer?
You wear a mask everywhere you go, stay in the safe zone because you don't want people to hate you, and have a lot of aquintances
OR
You can be who you are, although some people gonna hate you (Haters gonna Hate), but you have some people that will truly love you for who you are
Get Out From Comfort Zone
Comfort zone is defined as a zone that make you feel invincible. You won't felt uneasy or scared or whatever inside the comfort zone. You can do anything that you want in your comfort zone and that's fine... But, you are not gonna develop as a human.
Here's an example :
You can play games all day long and don't get out from your house and that is fine... Nobody is going to limit yourself.. But ask this question to yourself, "Am I going to be satisfied just by doing this? Is this how I want myself to be?" If you say "HELL NO", then you should get out from your house and start socializing more.
You can start going out from your comfort zone by joining an event, or a group meeting, or anything as long as you are meeting new people.
You don't have to socialize with people you don't connect with. Find somebody that has the same passion as you. Eventually, that somebody is going to introduce you to another person. Then your social circle will start to develop more and you will find more interesting things that you can do in your life.
Remember, it will feel weird as fuck at the begininng because you are doing something that you are not used to it. However, because you are joining into a group that has the same passion as you, they will be more to welcome you into their group.
Do NOT be Afraid to Fail
This is really important!!! How many of you would like to do many things but you are scared that you might be fail?
If you ever felt that, then it could be because of many reasons... One of the biggest fear is that you are scared to look like a dumb ass in front of many people... You think that what if people saw me do and they laugh at me... What you can do here is let them Fuck them self...
Think about like this, if you fail then it's normal. Nobody in this whole world can never be fail... BUT what I cannot take is I do not do it... When you do not do something then there will be a regret. And this chance will not come back to you twice.. So it is better to do something and fail which is no problem BUT if you don't do something and you regretted it, then too bad for you, good chance does not comes twice.
IMPORTANT NOTE : DO NOT BE SCARED TO LOOK LIKE A DUMB ASS, because you are the one that do it, NOT other people that only will laugh at you...
I do have a story to tell, I used to have no social life. And at that time, I was eager to find a girlfriend. So I started by joining a church community group. Inside, there were tons of people and I totally felt uneasy because, first, I'm new to this community, and second, because I am an introverted person. There were a lot of people that had a different passion than I. Some of them like soccer, some of them like to read magazine, and so forth. I personally like to play video game.
There were a time where we just had a good chat, and usually they asked questions like "What do you usually do at weekend?"... Scared to be thought as a nerd, I replied with "Ohh.. I usually go out with friends, we hang out here and there". But, that wasn't the case... Overtime, I get tired of this. I kept on faking my identity and thus I can't share my passion to anybody. Because first, I don't want to be judged as nerd. Two, I didn't want to make them look uncool by being friend with a nerd.
So I said to myself "Fuck this, I'll just join another community that can accept me". I moved to another community, but the same things are repeating itself. It kept repeating untill I finally realized that Be Your self to the extreme is the best way to live your life. I may have fewer friends at first, because some of them didn't like me. They thought I'm a nerd, they thought I'm not cool, and so forth. However, overtime, those people don't matter anymore. I found new friends through events, and because I'm not faking, they can see me as who I am. They liked me, and so do I like them. Overtime, we became good friends, and my friends keep on increasing.
Bottom line, don't fake yourself, and don't apologize for what you are. If you are a gamer, don't apologize because you are a gamer. Some people just don't like gamers and it's their problem. You can still make new friends with cool gamers out there, and they are bound to introduce you to another friends of them. Overtime, your friends will increase and you will really love your life.
Welcome back to Part 2 of My Turning Point... Part 1 explains my journey from Mr.Introvert Guy to be a better person. However, better person does not means able to get girls to like you. So here in Part 2, I will explain how my success with women can be achievable by a lot of ordinary person with the background from my experience...
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| SashaPUA |
After the end of Part 1, I kept thinking of how to move the conversation forward. I browse a lot of video in Youtube, until I found an awesome guy, called "Sasha" did the approach. He is a VERY FUNNY guy and is able to make the conversation forward. Not because he is funny, but because he display his intentions to the girl. This is important because it let the girls know that you approached them because you wants to get to know her. So, when he asked boring questions like "What do you do for fun", the girls know that he asked that so that he will know her better, and thus make the girls answer it.
After getting the knowledge of Direct Game, I try it out immediately in the next day. I still remember my first target was a girl from my campus ground. She was walking alone with quite a speedy pace. I try to walk fast but damn, this girl can really walk fast... I decided to jog a little to catch up with her. My heart really beat as fast as it can while I was jogging towards her. I reached her and jumped in front of her.
"Hiiii! Don't panic, Don't take it the wrong way, I'm not crazy or anything, but I think I'm fallen in love with you"
"What?! Are you serious?", the girl replied confusedly.
"Yea", I was really nervous and do not know what to say.
"So, uh, where are you going?", I tried to struggle the conversation.
"Home", she replied
"Uh.. okay, have a nice day", I ended it..
That was my first ever direct opener. It really causes your heart to beat very fast, as if you are chased by a bear. The good thing is, I realize it is not that hard to open directly.
After this incident, I kept watching Sasha's video on Youtube and learn a lot from him (I fucking love him (no homo)). However, I realize I'm not really like him. He is a very high energetic guy and funny, while I don't have a high energy and not funny. So simply copying him is not going to work for me, because it does not match my personality. After browsing in a lot of dating forum, I realize that you don't have to be funny to get a girl. Simply just being yourself will do. BUT, not just the normal be yourself. I will explain it more in another post about being yourself..
Start from this day, I tried to approach girls more and more. I even have a team now in Singapore, and yes comparing me now and when I was in my past is like Sky and Earth (That's exaggerating a little bit), but the point is after so many try on approaching woman, I felt MUCH MUCH different than my old self.
I'm able to be much more confident, especially when talking to girls.
Dating a hot girls you can find in the street is not a dream anymore and I have proved it myself, through instant dates.
Well, that is all I want to share about my turning point. It's not that hard, it does not consume any money or whatsoever. All you need is a willpower, determination and practice. Get out from your comfort zone and you can do the same or even better than what I could.
Nobody in this world is born perfect... Agree?? But everybody in this world can become a better person. The question is HOW?
Well the easiest things that I had tried and WORKS is by reading books.
Books here do not mean comic books or chemistry book or those kind of books.
Books in here mean self development books.
First of all, why do I even touch books in a first place? Books are gross. The story starts when I literaly fallen in love with this girl that I told in previous post, "C". She was introduced to me by my Father. I felt in love with her so much that it driven me crazy. I didn't have any chance with her because of my personality. I was so desperate that I browsed the internet and accidentally meet somebody that pulls me out of this darkness. His name is Even Alex Chandra. Through his post, I saw a lot of similarity between me and his past's life. And the way he dealt with it is by reading books. So from here, my journey begin.
Well, I want to share to you guys how me, Mr. Introvert Guy able to become a better person by reading books. I agree with the lots of you that book sucks like hell... Its boring, troublesome, makes your eyes hurt, and whatever bad things you can think about. However, thanks to that I'm able to become a better person.
The story starts when my room mate bought a book for his english study. He bought a book "The 7 Habit of Highly Effective Teens" by Sean Covey. At first, the reason I read that book was because I want to get more friends. As I mentioned in "My Past", I'm not able to make friends with people in general because of my introvert personality. I start reading it bit by bit, lazy but I had no choice. As I was reading it, the words inside the book struck like "an arrow to the heart"... It really hits the point that I have been doing so far. It's really a long thing if I have to explain it one by one, but long story short after I read that book, I felt that I become a better person. NOT MUCH, but I can feel the difference.
After that I started to read more books, like "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnergie. Again, it really gave me a lot of information on how to deal with people. I became an even better person, NOT MUCH, but still I can felt the improvement in my personality inside. Start from this point I'm able to deal with more person, from the one that give me a headache until the one that I really like.
However, I realize something that is still missing... Yes, I'm able to become a better person, but why I cannot get somebody that I like to loves me? My face is average , the way I groomed is normal like people in general, but WHY can't I get somebody that I like to love me?! I contacted my master, Even Alex Chandra, asking for help.
He recommend me to read a book called "The Game" by Neil Strauss.. This is where I got a lot of information about dating... The book tells a lot of information that sounds impractical in real life BUT actually is practicable...
Still haunted by my doubt I just kept on reading dating books by dating books. I read "Magic Bullet" by Nick Savoy. "The Love System" by Savoy, etc... So I become a bookworm of dating book. After 3 months of reading the same book over and over again, I decided to try it myself...
I join a retreat camp. I tried all the line that was written from the book. Result? It was a success. But on the 2nd day, I'm out of line, so I'm back to my real personality. I became a sitting duck throughout the camp and very submissive. When a girl looked at me in the eye, all I could do was looking down (what a loser). In the end I didn't get any girl's number.
In this desperation, again I contacted Even. He said "It all due to your personality". I was like "Fucked, what have I been doing this past 3 months?"
"I read a lot of self development and dating books, but this is what I get?"
It is said that when man faced his greatest depression, a great power will come within (This is non-sense btw, I created it myself)
Anyway, I thought "If I kept being like this, I won't get a girlfriend. I have to take action!" So I tried what's written in "The Game".
I went to approach a girls in my campus ground. My first ever approach in my entire life.. I saw a cute girl walking in a group of 3, so I approached them while I was nervous like HELL...
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| Neil Strauss |
"Excuse me, I need a girls opinion and it will only take a minute".
The girls was just stared at me laughing...
"My friend was fighting with his girlfriend because the girlfriend found a box inside his room and the box contained a picture of him and his Ex-GF... What do you guys thinks of that?"
"Ohhh... your friend's GF is just jealous"
"Now his GF forced him to burn the box or else she's going to leave him... Is that a normal girl behavior?"
"Nahhh, I think your friend's GF just jealous"
"Ohh okay, thanks anyway"
And that's how my first approach ended... I went back home and thought, how the fuck am I supposed to continue the conversation.
Welcome back to Part 2 of my past life... Hope you guys enjoy my first part, And who had life worse than what I had in first part of my past??? Leave your answer in the comment section bellow!!! Anyway, let's continue talk about Mr.Introvert Guy
High School
People say high school is the best part of your life that you will ever had... And yes, it is true for most people, but also true for Mr.Introvert Guy...for the first 6 months at least....
My high school life is full of GAME since we have to bring laptop to school. Everyday, me and my friends will always play DOTA or Counter Strike in class. Pretty good life for me but sadly it is not for my love life. During high school I felt in love with 3 girls. Let's talk about the first girls. Her name is "Y"... I saw her during the school orientation and GUESS WHAT?! YES, you guys guess it correct again. COOL GUY... Not talking to her, and when I enter my first day of Senior High, she was taken by my friends *SELF FIVE*... Oh well, back to playing DOTA then.
Second girl I felt in love with, her name is "B"... I had a discussion with my friends about B, whether is she pretty or not. Most of my friends said "Nah, She's not that hot" and me said something like "Yea dude, she's not that hot", even though I felt in love with her. I thought that if I would make a move on B, my friend will mock me, so, oh well, back to playing DOTA then while I kept looking at B while playing HAHAHAHA. Eventually, the feeling towards her wore off
Last girl I felt in love with in my first year of high school,,, her name is "G" and she was my sister's best friends. I was like "Holy Shit, how do I get close to her?!" I'am not close to my sister when I was in High School because of my introvert personality... So, my last resort was to discuss it with my friends. All my friends said "Ask your sister, asshole" and I was like "but, what if..." and I can provide 1,001 reasons not to ask my sister. So, its the end, I didn't talk to G at all until I moved to Singapore. Yeaaa, you guys heard it right, I'm moving to Singapore on December 2008.
Singapore Life
Here in Singapore, I felt really awkward, since it was my first time studying in other people's country. I enter my school and damn, all are Singaporean (DUH!!!) and my English was so bad last time. I make quite a decent friend in here btw... with all the gamers HAHAHA. Moreover, my introvert level reach 100%. I hate everybody except for my close friends. These, includes my family, all other Singaporean people, and basically every people.
I felt in love with one girl from my Secondary School in Singapore, her name is "X" and she is from China. Guess what move did i do? YESSS, You guess it right again... COOL GUY... I did not talk to her at all because all my friends said "She is not cute". What I could do was to steal a glance from her. Yup, sucks to be me...
Anyway, after 1 year of suffering by not talking to her, I move my living place to another house .... So, in this new place, I met a girl called "S", she was 3 years older than me and I felt in love with her. Guess what did I again? YESSS, you are right. COOL GUY... BUT, this time the cool guy was working actually. She talked to me... and after 3 months, I finally had a GIRLFRIEND... Yes, you heard it right, Mr.Introvert Guy finally had a girlfriend... During this period , I acted like I'am the girl and she is the boys. I'am getting lead in every thing but I still like her. I didn't feel really comfortable anymore because of her attitude, but I don't have a choice. This condition is called as "one-its", it's where you cannot live a life without her and thinks that she is the one and only choice available.
Long Story short after about 8 months of relationship, I break up with her because I could not take it anymore from her. However, start from this point, I'am not that introvert anymore, maybe 20% introvert. My relation with family is getting better, I don't hate people as much as I did last time, and my pimple is okay now HAHAHA
Family Life
Okay, this is the last part of my past... Basically it is what happened inside my family regarding my love life. My mother has a Best friend. And her best friend has a daughter and my mother plan to make me fall in love with her best friend daughter... Do you guys understand this? Read it again if you don't understand LOL ( It feels like my life is in a fucking drama show )... So they planned to meet me and her daughter, her name is "N". So we met, and shit, I really fall in love with her HAHAHA. But, as usual, cool guy is coming up. Did not get much interaction, except for boring conversation like "Which school did you go to?". But my mother does not stop there, even until NOW (when I write this post, she still insist me to be together with her).
From my father, its the same too. Except that he is less persistent that my mother. The girl that he introduced me to is called "C" and about the same age as me, except she lives in a different country than mine. I was totally in love with her and I think I'am gonna die if I don't even text her for 1 day. However, I guess my feeling is not reciprocated, so I give up on her and this is where I learn about "The Game"
So, my status up to this point is :
- Low self confidence
- Have a lot of friends, only as an acquaintances
- Always try to make other people happy
- Join a lot of activity for the sake that people will like me
- Sucks at talking to girl
- Not being myself
So, I wanna share a little about my past. Maybe you guys will be like "WHO THE FUCK CARES BOUT YOUR LITTLE PAST??!" but I say "FUCK YOU" (LOL)... Nah, the reason I want to show you guys is because I want to let you know that anybody can do what I did know and still be successful with women....
Childhood
So I live my childhood in Indonesia, in a GREAT family ( I love my family),,, I was a "bad boy" when I was 6 - 12 yrs old... Bad boy doesn't mean smoking or gangster fight,,, more towards rebel against teacher, made a girl cry, and so forth. It's nice to be a bad boy, because you feel that nothing can stop you. But, only one person that can stop me, my Mother... So every time I did something stupid like touching things in the mall, she will whacked me. The reason being my family is a high status family around my area. So they wanted me to behave like an educated kids. I have to talk properly, I can't say anything stupid in front of others (especially their friends), I have to had a plan in life, and all those things you could find in a Korean Drama's young master. So eventually, this make me become the nice boy that obey everything. As a reward, I become introvert . Introvert is a condition where you can't express yourself to other people and only open towards people that you know well...
Junior High - Senior High
During the orientation of junior high, I saw this one girl, lets just call her "S". Yup, you guys guess it right, I felt in love with S. More like love at first sight. However, I still don't know her, so I act like a "cool guy" by not talking to her ( you know cool guy in those korean drama where the boy just keep quiet like a dumb fuck and for some magical reason the girl will talk to the boy)... Anyway, thats the end of my Junior's Orientation
When I reach a junior high, the girl that I felt in love with, "S", was in the same class as me, YYAAYY!!!.. But still, I act as a cool guy to all the girls and act like a "bad boy" to the boys. One day, there was this event, that S wanted to sit next to me and I was like "oh...." verbally on the outside. But inside, I was like "HELL YEAH BITCHES"... So the next morning, she sat next to me, and guess what did I do as a cool fuck guy!!! Yup you guys are correct, I didn't talk to her AT ALL. I was hoping that she will talk to me but sadly it only happens in Korean drama. So, there was this awkward silence between us for the whole day and even week ... Eventually she wanted to move to other sitting T_T,,, of course she will, who the fuck want to sit to a guy that can't talk at all... So, heart broken all over me but lives goes on.
Second year of junior high, I felt in love with another girl,,, let's just called her "A"... But this time, I act a little bit "uncool". Talk a little bit with her, but cool guy personality is still deep inside me LOL... Anyway, I can tell that she was into me too, but I didn't confess to her. WHY?! because I act like a cool guy, hoping that the girl will confess to me. And guess what I get, an ill feeling from her. She didn't talk to me anymore until our Junior High School end, YAY for me...
Last Year of Junior High, my Introvert attitude reach 85% of Max. I got a lot of pimples in my face and my friend mocked me a lot, I become a bookworm in the class, play game like a hardcore, don't have many friends in school (except for my best friends), and my relations between me and my family is like SHIT. What a life isn't it *SELF FIVE*... All this things stack inside of me and I release it in form of playing game. So my life would be like Morning to evening go to school to study and evening till sleeping time will be used to play PS2 game HAHAHA. So, say Hi to the Mr. Introvert Guy
Like story telling, this means that you tell your partner stories. However, it is different that just your personal story or just her personal story. The story has to include between you and your partner. For example
This is a classic method, yet very effective. I rarely used it personally. It is something you said that make her think you like her then push it away from her. Confusing in description, I will show the example.
